Forgiveness does not mean:
-you approve of what they did
-you excuse what they did
-you justify what they did
-you deny what they did
-you pretend you are not hurt
-pardon what they did-sometimes there are consequences
-you have to reconcile with that person
-you forget what they did
Forgiveness is:
-Based entirely on how God treated us
-Being aware of what someone has done and still forgiving them
-refusing to punish the person
It's crazy how complicated relationships can be. I have a really complicated relationship, well non-relationship, with my dad. And although I've forgiven him for what he did do, the hard part is continuing to pray and maneuver through what is still happening now...
...like when I sit at a wedding and I see a father dancing with his daughter-she's so beautiful in her dress and he's smiling at her with tears welling up in his eyes, love overflowing for her -and I watch them as they whisper to each to other, laugh, and turn alone- together on the dance floor... and somewhere deep in my heart I forgive my dad for not choosing that....and then again even deeper still for not being capable of loving me the way I imagine a daughter should be loved....

Again...
and again
and again...
I forgive you daddy...